See below for our interview with Julie.
One Woman’s Journey to DO Something About Her BRCA Status
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How One Survivor Refuses to Let Cancer or Life Slow Her Down
Our team at The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction is honored to share with you an In Her Words post written by a dear friend and breast cancer survivor, Sharon Hawkins.
You are the founder of Grace in the Wilderness: A ministry for Today’s Business Woman, tell us a little bit about your organization and what lead you to create this inspirational place for women?
Grace In The Wilderness is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization and is an out-reach ministry whose mission is to encourage women of all ages:
- To look upward to God as they discover Him in a new and deeper way,
- To look inward as they discover who they are in Christ, and
- To look outward as they discover God’s plan for their lives.
We sponsor 5 conferences a year–Valentine’s Tea for Widows (Feb.), Women’s Conference (2 days, last weekend of Feb.), Conference for Moms of Special Needs Children (June), Teen Conf (Oct.) and a Christmas Brunch for Moms Who Have Lost Children (Dec.).
We also issue a bi-monthly Women’s Newsletter (GITW) and a quarterly newsletter for Teen Girls called “Gracie’s Way”. We welcome our readers to also share their stories. These are free email newsletters, subscriptions at our website: www.wildernessgrace.org.
In March of 2008, my mother passed away after battles with breast cancer and colon cancer. During her 3-year illness, my plate was so full–I helped care for her through cancer and for my dad with Parkinson’s, ran a very busy business with 10 employees, all the while being a wife and a mother to a teenage son and a special needs younger son. After Mom’s death, I was so weary and I prayed and asked God to please take something off my plate. His answer shocked me–He called me to start a ministry for today’s busy women and He didn’t take anything away. Later, when I was seeking answers about why He wanted me to juggle all these things, God revealed to me simply that if I was going to minister to busy women, I had to be one. Wow, why didn’t I think of that?
What did you hope to accomplish through founding Grace in the Wilderness, what is your vision for the future?
I hope to help other busy women find the help, love, support, forgiveness and grace that I have found from my relationship with Jesus Christ. Life is hard with God. In my opinion, it’s impossible without Him!
Grace In The Wilderness has grown. I added a Partner, my friend Marie Pritchett, right after starting the ministry and now there are many volunteers who make up “Team Grace”. God has given us a special focus and compassion to also reach those in the very difficult situations of life, those “impossible” situations we refer to as “wildernesses”. Our vision for the future is to expand to reach out to other special groups, such as single moms, teen moms, abused women, and other groups who are hurting and need encouragement and support. We hope to add a conference for cancer patients and their families as our next step.
I see you host quite a variety of events, can any women’s organization hold an event with you?
We don’t exactly hold events for other women’s organizations. But we are always open to working in conjunction with and supporting groups who help women as long as it allows us to stay true to our mission.
What impact has Grace in the Wilderness had on your own life?
I really thought Grace In The Wilderness was about our helping others through their wildernesses. Again, what was I thinking?!? It seems that, once again, if I’m going to minister to this group of women, those in hard places, God wants me to know what that’s like.
In June 2011, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. In July 2011, I had double mastectomies. In August 2011, I had silicone implant surgery. After several months of my body rejecting those implants, in November 2011, I had DIEP Flap breast reconstruction with Drs. Kline and Craigie in Mt. Pleasant, SC. (The Drs. and Chris are the best and East Cooper is a wonderful hospital.)
Also in November of 2011 just before my third surgery, I was diagnosed with melanoma and I had to have an out-patient procedure for that.
In the midst of this six months of chaos, my employee, who was my best friend (notice I said “was”), was sent to federal prison for embezzling more than $600,000 from me and my business. What?!? Yes, unbelievable, I know.
But what’s more unbelievable is that I sit here now 100% cancer free. I was diagnosed with two cancers within five months and the doctors were able to remove them both completely-no chemo, no radiation. Through my own wilderness experiences, I’ve found that God’s provisions are endless and through serving others, I’ve learned that you simply can’t outgive God. That’s God’s amazing grace in the wilderness and that’s what our ministry is all about.
Sharon Hawkins wants others to know that she is totally in love with Jesus. In 2008, she answered God’s calling to begin a
Ministry called Grace in The Wilderness.. Sharon’s the wife of her best friend, Scott, and the mother of two very special boys, Taylor (16), and Bradley (10), that she and Scott adopted from Ukraine as a toddler. As a businesswoman, she owns Benefit Resources where she works with 12 amazing women who together seek to put God first in the business. She loves fun, mission trips, reading, camping and spending time with her family and friends.
How One Breast Cancer Survivor Found Hope by Making Informed and Proactive Decisions
The team at The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction is honored to share with you an In Her Words post written by a recent patient of ours, Linda Burkholder. She is an inspiration to all women who are facing breast cancer or who are at risk for hereditary breast cancer.
See below for Linda’s story:
Breast cancer—you can’t say I didn’t see it coming, but being the eternal optimist, I hoped I would dodge the bullet. Several members of my family have died from breast cancer, including my grandmother, mother, aunt, and sister. After my sister died in 2006, I began to seriously consider prophylactic surgery. I quickly learned that there is little support in the medical community or among friends for this procedure.
After a benign biopsy two years ago I found F.O.R.C.E. (Facing Our Risk of Cancer Empowered) on the Internet. F.O.R.C.E. is a support group for those with hereditary breast and ovarian cancer. They posted an application for a scholarship to their annual conference. I applied and much to my surprise I was granted an expense paid trip to the conference in Orlando in 2010. I can’t tell you how that changed my life. I learned so much about everything I wanted to know about breast cancer and I met several plastic surgeons who stood out to me, especially Dr. Kline from The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction. I made a mental note to keep him in mind and took home a beach towel with his phone number splashed across it.
During the next year I struggled with my decision to have prophylactic surgery. Intellectually, I knew what to do, but emotionally I was really struggling. I joined a local F.O.R.C.E. group and kept learning and thinking and meeting cancer survivors, assuming I would have surgery when I felt more comfortable with the idea. Fast forward to June 2011. It was time for my annual mammogram. I told my family doctor I also wanted an MRI, to which she reluctantly agreed. To make a long story short, the mammogram came back normal, but the MRI showed a 1.2 cm questionable spot—a spot, I was told, because of its location, would never have been seen on any mammogram. It was a Stage 1 cancer.
This was almost 2 years to the date from my previous benign lumpectomy. In July, 2011 I had a second lumpectomy performed by one of the most respected surgeons in my area. Without consulting me she automatically scheduled me for radiation. I refused the radiation because I felt that all treatment was my decision and I wanted to consult with an oncologist first. Also, I had learned at the F.O.R.C.E. convention that radiated tissue is harder to reconstruct and I already knew I ultimately wanted mastectomies with natural breast reconstruction, not implants.
When I told the surgeon I didn’t want implants, she hit the ceiling. Clearly, no one had ever before challenged her standard treatment plan. Thanks to F.O.R.C.E., I was empowered. The next convention was two weeks away and I knew this would be where I would make my final decision, and it was. I talked with EVERY plastic surgeon at the conference. I spoke with Kathy Steligo, author of The Breast Reconstruction Guidebook, for 45 minutes at the round table breakfast. I had read her book for the third time on the plane to Orlando two days before. After the conference I came back to my hometown and started chemotherapy. I also scheduled my surgery for November at The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction.
After consulting with my oncologist, I elected to have bilateral mastectomies with autologous reconstruction. In September my husband and I made a trip to South Carolina to meet with Dr. Kline and Dr. Baron, the general surgeon. I wanted my husband to meet my doctors. I wanted to make sure I had his full support and I wanted to make sure any lingering questions by either of us were answered.
After that meeting I was sure I wanted to go forward with the DIEP procedure. I felt very confident that everything would be alright. On November 30, 2011 I had the procedure. It was an 8-hour surgery, and everything went very well. I was in East Cooper Medical Center for four days. My nurses were great, especially Angela. I thought of her as my special angel since she was able to anticipate what was needed before being asked and was especially kind. She really took good care of me.
After my discharge from the hospital my husband and I stayed in Charleston another 10 days. I got a handicapped room at a local long-stay hotel. There was a handicapped shower and a recliner in the room. I really appreciated that recliner and I slept in it most nights. It helped to keep my feet elevated. Every day, at least one time, I took a short, slow walk up and down the hall for exercise. I saw Dr. Kline 3 times during the next 10 days and he assured me everything was fine and my breasts looked “beautiful”—although at that time I didn’t think they looked so beautiful. Now, 5 weeks later, I can see how nicely everything is shaping up and I don’t think I will require a lot of revision at the Stage 2 procedure. I am glad I chose the DIEP procedure. The recovery is long, but it is worth it.
Did I ever seriously consider implants? The answer is yes, because implants represented the path of least resistance. I could have had the surgery done locally and I wouldn’t have had the additional expense of the trip from Indiana to South Carolina. Also, I would have had my entire support system around me. In making my decision I talked to many women who had implants and it seemed to me that they either loved them or hated them. Those that loved them seemed to love them only after 2-3 additional procedures due to complications. Everyone complained about the fills being painful and some found the implants to be cold or uncomfortable. Also there was the risk of capsular contracture and the necessity of replacing the implants every 10-15 years. I also talked with many women I met through F.O.R.C.E. who had flap procedures. I saw their results and they were fabulous. Short of a few fading scars, you could not tell that their breasts were not original. All of them seemed quite pleased with their new breasts.
Yes, recovery is a bit prolonged with DIEP. You definitely need someone very devoted to you to help out those first few weeks. I needed help getting up and down, showering, dressing, and emptying my surgical drains. My husband helped me with everything, dispensed my medications and gave me a blood thinning shot daily. I could do very little without his assistance the first 10 days following surgery, and I slept much of the time. Still, I was able to get around slowly and even went out to local restaurants my two weeks in Charleston. I also had pain medication, which made life bearable.
As the weeks have progressed, I feel my strength slowly returning. I am not yet 100% but I am planning to return to my job part-time on January 9th, with hopes of returning fulltime the following week. For anyone considering a flap procedure but fearful of the recovery, I would advise them that it is doable. It’s not as bad as you think. A certain amount of fear is normal if, like me, you have never had a major surgery. But for me, everything went fine, even though I am 59 years of age, older than any one I have met who had DIEP. So, I think if I can do it, anyone can.
My only regret is that I didn’t come to my decision for prophylactic surgery before I got cancer. Time ran out to make that decision but I am thankful my cancer was found early and I am thankful for my husband of 29 years, Larry, was by my side supporting me every step of the way. I would advise anyone facing cancer to not panic, do your homework, and be very proactive in your treatment. Learn everything about breast cancer that you can so you can understand your options. Choose your doctors carefully. Get second opinions and do what YOU think is best for you. You have many options; don’t let anyone take any of them away from you. Make your own decisions.
Having cancer has changed my view of life. It seems much more precious and much more vulnerable than before. I am thankful for a second chance and thankful that I had so many options that my mother and grandmother did not have. My mother had radical mastectomies, which are very disfiguring. I am glad that I still look much like I did before. I had nipple-sparing surgery and when I look at my breasts I still see me in there. I can’t wait to see the results following my final revisions. I am very grateful for Dr. Kline, Chris Murakami, RN and Clinical Coordinator, and all the staff at The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction for a very positive reconstructive experience.
About Linda Burkholder
My name is Linda Burkholder and I have lived in Kokomo, Indiana the past 22 years. I am the proud mother of two adult children, a daughter 23 years-old and a son age 21. I have been married to my husband, Larry, for 29 years. I work fulltime at Indiana University as an Administrative Secretary to the Dean of the School of Public and Environmental Affairs. I love animals and have two Pembroke Welsh Corgis and four cats. In my spare time I enjoy reading and knitting.
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How One Woman Discovered the Positive Outcomes of Reconstruction Surgery and Cancer
Today’s In Her Words post comes to us from a past patient of The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction, Jakki Grimball. Jakki is a breast cancer survivor who lived in Columbia, SC and traveled to Charleston to receive her DIEP reconstructive surgery. Today, her and her husband live in Charleston where her husband is the director of The Neighborhood House, an organization providing services for people in need, including food pantry, soup kitchen, emergency assistance, sewing classes, resume writing, and more.
See below for our interview with Jakki:
What type of reconstruction surgery did you have and how do you feel about the results?
I had the DIEP flap procedure done October 2007 by Dr. Craigie. The outcome far outweighs the surgery and recovery time. I am very pleased with the results and having a tummy tuck as an added benefit!
Would you make the same decision again if you could go back?
I would definitely make the same decision. I had a friend who had implants and she now wishes she had done the DIEP flap procedure. She’s had several complications. Of course, I believe I had the best plastic surgeon in South Carolina perform my surgery.
What advice would you give to women who have undergone a mastectomy or double mastectomy and are unsure about natural breast reconstruction?
I would and have advised women to have the DIEP flap surgery. It is far better to have natural breast reconstruction than to have a foreign substance placed in the body. I realize advances have been made in breast implants and there are fewer adverse effects; however, I believe that using my own tissue left little opportunity for infections and other complications. I have never regretted having the surgery or choosing Dr. Craigie as my surgeon.
In what ways has breast cancer both negatively and positively affected your life?
The only negative affect breast cancer had in my life was the mastectomy and the chemotherapy. I firmly believe God has a purpose for everything and having breast cancer made me more aware of how fragile life can be. Breast cancer brought my family and friends closer and I hate to say it, but it weeded out those who were truly not my friends. I found out I had breast cancer three days before my wedding and I gave my fiancé the chance to cancel the wedding. He told me he would marry me at my bedside if necessary. So the diagnosis also brought us closer together. I now cherish every moment and I don’t sweat the small stuff (sometimes not even the big stuff).
You and your husband recently relocated from Columbia, SC to Charleston, SC where your husband is the Executive Director of Neighborhood House. Tell us a little bit about this non-profit organization and how it helps the community.
Click here to view a document from The Neighborhood House, outlining their mission and daily services to the community.
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“Get Your Squeeze On!” How One Woman Is Spreading Awareness about Mammograms
When we heard that our former patient, Lee McCracken was launching her own line of tees to help raise money and spread the word for breast cancer awareness, we were thrilled!
We interviewed Lee on her new endeavor with her fabulous “Yes, Ma’am! mammograms are a must” tees and also discovered a little bit about her journey through breast cancer and life after cancer.
Read this inspirational interview below (NOTE: all images in this post were provided by and are owned by Lee McCracken):
1. You started the “Yes, Ma’am! mammograms are a must” tees. Tell us a little about this unique tee and what inspired you to create it? Where do funds go for those who purchase the tee?
I admit it—I NEVER liked getting a mammogram. But then I discovered I disliked breast cancer even more! I’m a two-year survivor and a former patient of The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction. This year, my girlfriends and I decided to be a little more organized for the Komen Race for the Cure in our home city of Charlotte, NC. We needed a name and a T-shirt.
So, I began brainstorming.
I tried to think of a fun phrase that was upbeat and also inspirational. “Yes, Ma’am! mammograms are a must” popped into my head one day in May. Of course, the apostrophe in ma’am is the pink ribbon! My girlfriends encouraged me to merchandise the tee on a local, regional—and, dare I say, national—level.
The face of the under-insured and uninsured woman has changed. Given this economic climate, many women, naturally, are putting their children first before seeing to their own healthcare needs. I want to help fund mammograms for women who don’t have health insurance. Locally, 15% (or $3 of every $20 tee sold) is going to the Carolinas Breast Cancer Fund to help women who are qualified by the Mecklenburg County Health Department.
Individuals, groups, and retail outlets who sell the tee in other cities may designate a charity in their community to receive the funds. Anyone interested should connect with me via e-mail: sales@yesmaamtee.com.
2. What do you hope to accomplish through selling the “Yes, Ma’am!” tee? In other words, what is your vision for the future of the tee and its effect on women?
Wouldn’t it be fun if women all over started wearing their “Yes, Ma’am! mammograms are a must” tees to the coffee house, grocery store, and gym? It makes a sassy statement in Southern style, and people take notice. I’ve seen women look at my tee and then kind of shake their head, almost to say, “Oh yeah, I need to schedule that.”
The Facebook page is generating interest from all over the country. The tee has fans from California to Oklahoma and Florida to Vermont.
A cancer nurse once told me that when breast cancer is caught in Stages 0-1, treatment can be so much easier and survival rates soar. Let’s strive for 100% early detection!
3. What inspired you to start your own freelance writing / editing business, Joyfullee Written, at the age of 49 and what do you provide others with through this business?
I’ve been writing and editing for more than 25 years, sometimes as a freelancer and other times on staff with a local lifestyle or parenting magazine. The formal launch this summer of Joyfullee Written was my birthday gift to myself. I will turn 50 in October and, not only have I survived breast cancer, but I have also survived several other heartbreaking losses. I’m also working on a book—an inspirational memoir about self-discovery and spiritual preservation through motherhood and menopause. Joyfullee Written comes from the fact that all my inspiration and strength spills from the fountain of God’s grace.
Joyfullee Written provides professional writing / editing services to magazines and businesses. I enjoy meeting people and helping them reach their audience through a well-crafted, targeted message. And, with a passion for lifelong learning, this is helping me to keep discovering new things every day.
4. What is the one thing you want all women to know about breast cancer?
The earlier it’s detected the more treatment options women have! I HATE when I hear someone say “I’m a year overdue for my mammogram.” My Stage 1 breast cancer was caught by a mammogram, and I was fortunate not to have to endure chemo or radiation. I know everyone is busy and mammos sometimes are uncomfortable, but it’s crazy to take such a risk.
All my family members and friends know: Get Your Squeeze On!
Lee McCracken lives with her husband, Stuart, of 28 years in Denver, N.C., a suburb of Charlotte. She has a 19-year-old daughter, Megan, and a 10-year-old Bichon Frise, Benny. She enjoys gardening, photography, reading and traveling. Lee’s girlfriends keep her sane!
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Do You Know Your Breast Reconstruction Options?
We’re thrilled to share some exciting news with you, today! Dr. Richard Kline, Charleston breast surgeon, and the lovely Leslie Haywood, owner of Grill Charms™ and breast cancer survivor, were recently interviewed on one of our local Charleston news channels. During this interview, Leslie shares her inspirational story of breast cancer survival and how she chose to have the breast surgeons of The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction perform her natural breast reconstruction.
Dr. Richard Kline of The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction spoke about breast reconstruction options for women who are currently undergoing treatment for breast cancer or who have had a mastectomy.
See below for the interview:
If you want to learn even more about Leslie Haywood’s story (and get a chuckle from her hilarious narrative), click here to view one of our recent blog interviews with her.
For those of you who aren’t aware of The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction and what we do, here’s a brief description:
Charleston plastic surgeons Dr. James Craigie and Dr. Richard Kline specialize in breast reconstruction for women who have undergone mastectomy and those who are considering risk reducing prophylactic surgery. Some of the procedures performed by these Charleston breast surgeons include DIEP, SIEA, and GAP free flap breast reconstruction, which utilize your own tissue with no implants and no muscle sacrifice.
Our Charleston breast surgeons also perform nipple sparing mastectomy, reconstruction after lumpectomy, microsurgical breast reconstruction, and breast restoration. Visit The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction website at http://www.naturalbreastreconstruction.com/.
How One Survivor Used Meditation and Support to Find a Brighter Future
We’re superexcited to share Part II of our guest interview with Debbie Woodbury on our blog, today!
For those of you who missed Part I of this interview, click here.
See below for Part II of our guest interview, where Debbie shares more of her inspirational story, including a look into her Meditation Mondays:
1. Our team at The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction loves how you started a Meditation Mondays blog series! Tell us what inspired you to begin meditating and what benefits it provides to you.
Thank you, I love that series too! I was inspired to begin meditation by simple necessity. My cancer diagnosis completely blindsided me. Up until that point, I thought of myself as a healthy person, who looked and felt fine. However, as testing and treatment chipped away at my body, I slowly sunk into sickness. My mastectomy cured my noninvasive cancer, but healing was a whole different matter.
Physically, I had lots of guidance and healed with rest and good care. Emotionally, I was on my own. Luckily, I discovered guided imagery just a few weeks before my mastectomy and used it to calm my anxiety about the impending surgery and loss of my breast. I continued searching for emotional healing and discovered meditation.
Meditation provides me with many, many benefits. As a cancer survivor, it is so easy to drive yourself crazy, worrying about doctors’ appointments, tests, and every ache and pain. Through meditation, I became aware of the voice in my head whose job is to worry. Meditation brings me back to the present moment, where the only thing that exists is what is happening right now.
The funny thing is that I actually had an easier time meditating during my disability, when there was lots of time to sit still. Now that the stresses of family, home, work, and survivorship fill my day, finding time to meditate takes a bigger commitment. It is well worth it, however, and can be done in just minutes a day. Meditation is one of the many gifts cancer brought me and I am so grateful for the “Peace and Joy, Love and Light” it brought into my life.
2. What one piece of advice would you give to women who are struggling with breast cancer and are finding it difficult to look toward a brighter future?
When I was actually going through the diagnostic and treatment phases, I kept going by sheer force of will. I just needed to get through it, especially for my husband and children. After my mastectomy, however, the emotional fallout was overwhelming. Luckily, my cancer center offered free oncology therapy, which I committed to on a weekly basis for approximately a year. I don’t know how I could have processed it all without the help of my wonderful therapists. Without their help dealing with cancer’s losses, I never could have eventually recognized cancer’s gifts.
My one piece of advice would be to get all the support you need, from family and friends, but also from professionals. No one can walk this road alone and no one person can be your only source of support. Ask for and find the help you need to create your brighter future beyond cancer.
Debbie Woodbury is a cancer survivor, blogger, speaker, and advocate. She entered the diagnostic and treatment phases of breast cancer in 2008. When she completed treatment in 2009, she was left to deal with cancer’s emotional impact. With the support of family, friends, and wonderful oncology therapists, she was able to create her Gifts and Losses List and eventually realize that “Survival > Existence.” The Gifts and Losses List became the heart of WhereWeGoNow.com, a community of survivors sharing the gifts and losses of lives lived beyond cancer.
Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook. And be sure to visit her blog, Where We Go Now; it’s one of our favorites!
How One Cancer Survivor Embraces Life After Cancer
We are not only delighted, but we are also extremely honored to introduce our In Her Words guest blogger for today, Debbie Woodbury. As a cancer survivor, blogger, speaker, and advocate, Debbie has become an inspiration to all women—no matter their age or health history. In our interview with Debbie, she talks about her amazing blog, Where We Go Now, and discusses the benefits she, as well as her loyal readers, receive from reading her blog.
See below for our exclusive interview with Debbie:
1. Where We Go Now is a completely unique blog that acts like a community and resource for women. Who is Where We Go Now for and what benefits do you hope readers get from visiting your blog?
Thank you so much for inviting me to lend my voice to In Her Words. WhereWeGoNow.com was created for cancer survivors exploring the gifts and losses of life beyond cancer. The idea for the site came from my own journey. About nine months after my mastectomy, I startled to realize I was keeping a tally in my head of the changes cancer was bringing me. Although I was excruciatingly aware of the losses, I was begrudgingly recognizing gifts. When I could ignore the gifts no longer, I decided to write them down side by side with the losses.
The losses were obvious, but there were a surprising number of gifts. Introspection, closer relationships, discovering yoga and meditation, making new friends, becoming aware of the present moment, learning to say “yes” to myself, and writing—just to name a few.
That list is now the heart of WhereWeGoNow.com. We’ve all taken major, earth-shattering losses, but I hope readers visiting WhereWeGoNow.com are inspired to recognize cancer’s gifts in their own lives. The most beautiful entries readers have posted are found at the Community Gifts and Losses List page. My Gifts and Losses List helped me find emotional healing and balance after cancer and I hope readers visiting WhereWeGoNow.com receive the same benefit.
2. What benefits do you receive from blogging about your life after cancer? (i.e. clarity, joy in helping others, etc.)
With each blog post I write, I still manage to surprise myself by writing down a thought I didn’t know I had until it hit the screen. Blogging brings me a deeper understanding of what I went through, and continue to experience, because of cancer.
Blogging also taught me that survivorship is a multi-faceted, life-long journey. I’ve blogged about my “beautiful,” eloquent cancer scars; yoga; how giving back to others helped me heal from cancer depression; awful summers and moving beyond them; my first survivors’ walk, the best thing anyone ever said to me about my cancer, and so much more.
Of all the posts I’ve written so far, however, I probably learned the most from the one I wrote about gratitude. I learned in writing that post, which I also gave as a speech, that I never would have recognized cancer’s gifts without gratitude, cancer’s first and most important gift to me.
The most wonderful part of blogging is getting comments back from my readers. It’s so gratifying to know my experiences have struck a chord with other survivors and perhaps made a difference in how they approach their survivorship. I will never say that cancer itself is a gift, because it is not. But recognizing the gifts it brought and continues to bring into my life is very healing for me.
Stay tuned for Part II of our interview with Debbie, which will publish this Wednesday, August 10!
About Debbie Woodbury:
Debbie Woodbury is a cancer survivor, blogger, speaker, and advocate. She entered the diagnostic and treatment phases of breast cancer in 2008. When she completed treatment in 2009, she was left to deal with cancer’s emotional impact. With the support of family, friends, and wonderful oncology therapists, she was able to create her Gifts and Losses List and eventually realize that “Survival > Existence.” The Gifts and Losses List became the heart of WhereWeGoNow.com, a community of survivors sharing the gifts and losses of lives lived beyond cancer.
Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook.
Having a Positive Outlook on Life Before, During, & After Breast Cancer: Interview with Leslie Haywood
We are SO excited to share with you Part II of our interview with Leslie Haywood, creator of Grill Charms™. For those of you who have not yet read Part I of this interview, Leslie shared her story as a breast cancer survivor and explained how she started a successful company while undergoing treatments.
We absolutely love how Leslie can be so inspirational and funny at the same time!
If you missed Part I of this interview, click here.
See below for Part II of our exclusive and highly inspirational (not to mention, hilarious!) interview with Leslie Haywood:
1. Your first Grill Charms™ sale was somewhat unexpected! Tell us where you were and how you sold your first Grill Charms™.
Oh yes! My most memorable sale to date! I was in the office for my final “procedure,” if you will. I was in The Center for Natural Breast Reconstruction office for my nice pinkish brown tattoo. As you can imagine, I have known all the folks at Dr. Craigie’s office for over a year by then (and pretty intimately I must say), so in an effort to help me think about anything other than what she was doing, the nurse asked about how my brand new business was going. Her distraction technique worked! I instantly forgot the discomfort and gave her the complete rundown of Grill Charms™, ending with: “I have a set to show you in my purse over there!”
By the time the nurse was done waving her buzzing magic wand all over my reconstructed girl parts, she said “I need 5!” I immediately jumped off the table (still half dressed), showed her the set out of my purse, and right then and there, with my cell phone calculator (yep, still topless) I totaled up everything plus tax and she wrote the check on the spot. After our business transaction was done, she helped me with the bandage / pad etc. and I put my clothes back on. I can’t imagine any other sale being quite as “interesting” as this one. Obviously I’m not opposed to be doing business topless, but thankfully I have not had to resort to that since!
5. How did you decide which type of breast reconstruction surgery you wanted?
Because of my family history, I feel like I was at an “advantage” (if you can call it that!). I have had YEARS to consider and decide how I would handle a breast cancer diagnosis. Back when my mother had her treatment and reconstruction, there were very few options and she pretty much did what she was told (mastectomy and implant).
I saw what 20 years had done to her reconstruction and had always wanted better for myself. I didn’t like the idea of an implant being in me for all eternity and also knew that I wanted “symmetry” for the rest of my life, so both boobs would HAVE TO GO! The fact that my “baby pooch” would be used to make my new breasts and the fact that I’d have the stomach I used to have in my 20’s, was a BONUS!
Oh, another little story about the surgery (**For those of you who know me, you know I’m the queen of TMI, so you’ll have to excuse my “frankness” when it comes to what some might view as sensitive topics. I apologize if my candor and tone offends anyone.). Okay… so when the decision was made and we knew that “natural breast reconstruction” was the way to go, and that “belly fat” was where my new breasts were going to come from, I talked to my husband about “size.” He said “porn star, please” and I said “NO WAY,” but I did want something to show off. I really wanted to make sure that Dr. Craigie had enough “material” to work with, so I went on an 8-week eating FRENZY!
My family would watch me getting 2nds and 3rds of my favorite food, STEAK! They’d say “Leslie . . . slow down there girl!” and my reply was always the same, “Shut up! I’M MAKING BOOBIES!” For those 8 weeks, food and I had a magical relationship! Ahhh…. I miss those days!
Now what I DID NOT take into account with natural breast reconstruction was how my breasts would look after the surgery. With my tummy flat and my new natural breasts a fabulous B+ maybe C, I wanted do right by my “second chance” and eat right and exercise to keep it. I have never been more fit in all my life! BUT, because the new breasts are “all natural,” when I started to lose all that “boobie making weight” and toned everything up, my new breasts acted exactly like my old ones. There was a little shrinkage factor! So now I’m more like an A+ to a B-, but I have never been happier with my body and I have never been more in shape in my entire life! Just look how awesome they are! THANKS Dr. Baron for saving my life and thanks Dr.Craigie for making me look and feel better than ever!
6. What would you tell women who have had a mastectomy or are planning on undergoing one about natural breast reconstruction?
You owe it to yourself to at least learn about natural breast reconstruction and fully understand this option. Knowledge is power and you will never regret finding out about what you don’t know. There has not been a single SECOND that I wish that I had done things any differently. Natural breast reconstruction was the absolute best option for me, NO QUESTION!
About Leslie Haywood and Grill Charms™:
Leslie Haywood is founder and President of Charmed Life Products, LLC, and inventor of Grill Charms™. Leslie was a stay-at-home mom when a very spicy light bulb moment thrust her into the entrepreneurial ring. During the start up phase of her company, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, but still managed to launch her product on store shelves within 18 months and is now sold in over 400 stores internationally. She has been featured numerous times on CNBC, various local and regional news programs, as well as ABC’s prime time reality TV show Shark Tank seasons I and II. Her story and product have publicized in such magazines as Everyday with Rachael Ray, Parenting magazine, Health magazine, Inventors Digest, and was also featured on The Today Show. All the while she is mindful of “the cause,” whether it’s giving back through “The Pink Collection” of her gift and grilling accessory Grill Charms™, or her work as Honorary Chair for The Race for the Cure .
Leslie’s Special Offer:
***Put “natural” in the coupon code of www.grillcharms.com for 10% off!***
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