7 Ways to Beat Stress

stress reliefStress adversely affects every aspect of your life, from your health to your relationships. Many people don’t realize how stressful their lives are, and they don’t know how to deal with or reduce their stress. Let’s explore seven ways to improve your life by beating stress.

Determine your stressors.

We all have different areas of our lives that cause stress. While you may not be able to change stressful situations, by identifying your stressors, you can develop a plan to deal with them as effectively as possible. For example, if work causes stress, you can go to the gym after work to release tension with a workout, or leave the building for lunch to get away from your desk for a few minutes.

You might be able to change your response to stressors by altering the situation to make it easier to bear. For example, if visiting the doctor during the day is stressful because you need to go to work afterward, perhaps you can meet the doctor in the evening or on a weekend day. If you become agitated during rush hour traffic, try a new route or travel at a different time.

Avoid people, places, and things that upset you.

We all have people who make us uncomfortable or tasks we dislike doing. When those aggravations become stressful, it’s time to take matters into your own hands. Rethink whether it’s necessary to have dinner with the neighbor who criticizes your cooking. Perhaps it makes sense to find an accountant to do your taxes or a detailer to wash your car. Delegating tasks and avoiding stressful people not only reduce your stress, but they also give you a marvelous feeling of freedom.

Know your limits.

Be realistic about your time and what you can do, and say no when you need to. When you’re at your limit, additional items on your to-do list become stressors. Stand your ground and be assertive when you need or want to say no.

Give yourself a treat.

Integrative therapies such as massage, reflexology, and aromatherapy help to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and relax you. They’re also fun and rejuvenating. Find a certified practitioner or visit a spa, keep an open mind, and give it a try.

Turn off the noise.

Unplug and spend at least 30 minutes alone and quiet every day. We’re all bombarded by technology and advertising, and it’s overwhelming. When you get away from the constant noise, you’ll feel your stress melt away. Spend that time doing what you enjoy, whether it’s a walk or a hot bubble bath. Unwind and enjoy.

Tune out negativity.

Do you really need to watch the 10 pm newscast each night or read the paper every day?  The news is mostly negative, which raises your stress levels. Your mind doesn’t need any more input on weather disasters or the latest political upheavals around the world. Don’t take on the world’s problems as your own. Rather than watch the news, find a comedy or cartoon to watch. Better yet, turn off the TV and read a book.

Experiment to find your best release.

Some women relieve stress by laughing or crying, and others find exercise or art to be their release valve. You may need to try a few different outlets to relieve stress, such as watching classic TV comedies, renting a movie that makes you cry, painting, or going to the gym. You may find one perfect stress reliever, or you may decide a combination of activities helps.

As you work through your stress, stay positive. Negativity is an unhealthy stressor and can creep into areas of your life that aren’t stressful. An upbeat attitude will do wonders to combat stress and help you feel healthy and at your best.

What do you do to combat stress?

How to Talk to your Spouse about Health Concerns without Scaring Him

health concernsYou need to talk to your husband about your health, but it scares him when you bring it up. You need to have a strategy for talking to him. You can’t stop him from fearing for you—he loves you and wants you healthy and safe—but you can minimize his anxiety with a few simple tips.

Be clear on what you need to tell him at this point.

One of the worst things you can do is to throw a worst-case scenario at him from the start. That would unnecessarily scare anyone. If you’ve found a lump, tell him you’re going to have it checked out. Answer his questions, but don’t put thoughts in his mind that don’t need to be there at this time.

Have the facts in front of you, and keep it short and to the point.

Men often respond better when they can see the facts. Show him studies, doctors’ websites and blogs, WebMD—anything that clearly states the facts so he can see for himself. Practice what you’re going to say, and focus on being clear and succinct.

When you talk to him, get right to the point and then stop. If you ramble, his attention may wander, or he may tune you out right when you need him to listen. Ask him if he has any questions, and answer them honestly—but again, keep it short.

Try to keep your emotions in check during the discussion.

When women are upset or crying, their husbands feel powerless and unable to solve the problem, so they become frightened and angry. If you can hold your emotions just until you’ve finished telling him what you need to, he’ll hear you more clearly.

We’re not saying you need to stifle your emotions, but give him a chance to hear and comprehend what you’re saying without becoming frightened because you’re upset.

Have the doctor explain it to him.

If you’re not comfortable talking to him, or you think he might have questions you can’t answer, have the doctor call him at home. If you take him to the doctor with you, his mind will run wild while you’re in the waiting room, and he’ll scare himself. Leave the room while he’s on the phone, and do not have the doctor call him at work unless it’s good news.

Give him time to process.

After you’ve talked to him, go to another room for a while to let him sort through his thoughts. He needs time to process what you’ve told him, and he needs to be alone. Tell him to take his time. It might be five minutes or five hours, but give him the time he needs.

What strategies have you used when talking to your husband about your health?

Why It’s Important to Get Out of the House and Experience Life

happy lifeIt’s been said that as you get older, you won’t regret what you’ve done, but what you haven’t done. It’s easy to stay home and hibernate, and you certainly need time alone to reflect and think, but you also need to connect—with people, with things, with places, and most important, with yourself.

Life is full of abundance and beauty, and it always has exciting adventures for you to discover. Some are as simple as hearing the tinkle of children’s laughter or watching a tulip emerge from the frost. Other experiences, such as camping in the mountains or going to a rock concert, fill all your senses with wonder and delight. Trying something new is stimulating and memorable, and it makes you feel truly alive as it enriches your life.

It’s easy to fall into the rut of staying in the house and watching TV or reading, and the thought of trying new things can be daunting. However, when you’re ready, adventure begins the moment you open your door. New experiences don’t have to be complicated or expensive. Anything you haven’t seen, heard, felt, or tasted is brand new to you. Following are ten simple and inexpensive ideas to try.

  • Take a different route when you run errands, and try a new store or dry cleaner.
  • Plan a short road trip, and discover an area of your city or county you’ve never seen.
  • Drive with some friends or family to a nearby town and park your car, get out, and explore.
  • Go window shopping.
  • Plant your favorite flowers in your yard or in a window box.
  • Call a friend and try a new coffee shop or restaurant. Splurge on food or drink you’ve never tasted before.
  • Go to the theater and watch a movie from a genre you’re not familiar with. Try a new snack while you’re there.
  • Think about attractions or landmarks your town is famous for. Have you ever seen them? If not, go.
  • Take a class in something you’ve always wanted to learn, such as a foreign language, cooking, or writing.
  • Imagine yourself doing an activity you’ve always been hesitant to try, such as riding a roller coaster or racing go-karts. Then do it.

Once you start exploring the world around you, you’ll be hooked and want more. What adventures are you ready to try?